Being nice vs. having fun!

When is it okay to sacrifice being nice to have fun?


In planning the bachelorette party for my nursing buddy I keep putting off who to invite. Of course I able to tolerate all the students in small doses....but then that song from Father of the Bride II comes to mind, "every party has a pooper, that's why we invited you, party pooper..."


I used to be so concerned with pleasing everyone around me that I was always left unhappy. So, now some might call me selfish...but I am happy!! Now don't think that I am completely tactless and go around saying whatever I want. Far from it. I just pick my battles and chose to surround myself with people that make me happy...and screw the rest of em!


So, going through all the chicks in our class there are only a few that we don't know well enough, or don't like to spend time with...so do we invite them all and risk spoiling the evening?? Or, just invite the ones we are almost positive would be fun to have??


I say, screw it, go with what you know!


Now, this was a group of 20 people that I knew really well, everyone would be invited...but I don't, so suck it up and grow a pair. If someone is offended that they don't get invited, sorry, but maybe you should be so annoying, lame, rude, negative (to exclude myself of course), or maybe you should talk to the bride-to-be more!


Great...now that little voice inside is saying, "Mary, why are you being so mean, you know that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings!?!?!" Um, I am sorry voice.....rrrsldkfjlsadkjf....I am going through a tunn...asdflkajsdoir....el, call me back....asdlfk;ouierj....*click*


If I continued on my original goal to keep everyone else happy, I would still be unhappy. I am taking this as a calculated risk, b/c honestly, they call them life lessons for a reason.

Why can't I take my own advice?

Every week I tell my Sunday School kids to try to "approach each situation with love." And after that statement, I get grumbles, and I confess that it is a HUGE struggle for me...but when you do, the outcomes is normally a happier one. So, why is it so hard to be nice?

There is a girl (and I say girl for a reason) that I come into contact with frequently that has a chip on her shoulder. So, when I have to talk to her, it just makes my blood boil! I said to a friend yesterday, "if she is going to have a constant attitude, why doesn't she just leave?" And they said, "well, she is going through....." to which I replied, "she has been going through...for over a year!" I just don't understand why people are just outwardly hateful and expect everyone to take it. I really just want to yell at her, but then I wouldn't be approaching the situation with love, and what kind of role model would I be? (the real reason is I have to deal with this person too often that it would only make the situation worse)

So, why do I have to be the bigger person...it is no fun, and it really sucks! There are numerous people that I really can't stand, but I have the maturity to treat them with respect and avoid a confrontation (and them).
I am going to vent by stealing Michelle's idea...writing her a letter I will never send.

Dear Rude Girl,

I have gathered from our interactions that there is definately a conflict, but SUCK IT UP AND GROW A PAIR! We are both adults, and I really don't appreciate the attitude you so lovingly display anytime there is a task/discussion that you don't agree with or want to do. No, life isn't always fair, DUH, but part of functioning in the real world is dealing with every kind of person and situation.

I am personally sick of your attitude and don't EVER want to spend time with you b/c of it, but I know spending time with you is inevitable, so grow up, and start playing nice. I am really sick of being the bigger person, and I am not sure how much longer I can. So, to avoid confrontation, grow up and start playing nice. I realize you are dealing with a lot in your life right now, and for awhile, but so are so many people around you and they manage to function in society.

I don't hate you, I just really don't like to be around you...and just wanted to bring up the fact that your bad attitude effects everyone around you, in case you didn't know.

-Me

I feel so much better....