Being nice vs. having fun!

When is it okay to sacrifice being nice to have fun?


In planning the bachelorette party for my nursing buddy I keep putting off who to invite. Of course I able to tolerate all the students in small doses....but then that song from Father of the Bride II comes to mind, "every party has a pooper, that's why we invited you, party pooper..."


I used to be so concerned with pleasing everyone around me that I was always left unhappy. So, now some might call me selfish...but I am happy!! Now don't think that I am completely tactless and go around saying whatever I want. Far from it. I just pick my battles and chose to surround myself with people that make me happy...and screw the rest of em!


So, going through all the chicks in our class there are only a few that we don't know well enough, or don't like to spend time with...so do we invite them all and risk spoiling the evening?? Or, just invite the ones we are almost positive would be fun to have??


I say, screw it, go with what you know!


Now, this was a group of 20 people that I knew really well, everyone would be invited...but I don't, so suck it up and grow a pair. If someone is offended that they don't get invited, sorry, but maybe you should be so annoying, lame, rude, negative (to exclude myself of course), or maybe you should talk to the bride-to-be more!


Great...now that little voice inside is saying, "Mary, why are you being so mean, you know that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings!?!?!" Um, I am sorry voice.....rrrsldkfjlsadkjf....I am going through a tunn...asdflkajsdoir....el, call me back....asdlfk;ouierj....*click*


If I continued on my original goal to keep everyone else happy, I would still be unhappy. I am taking this as a calculated risk, b/c honestly, they call them life lessons for a reason.