Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Being nice vs. having fun!

When is it okay to sacrifice being nice to have fun?


In planning the bachelorette party for my nursing buddy I keep putting off who to invite. Of course I able to tolerate all the students in small doses....but then that song from Father of the Bride II comes to mind, "every party has a pooper, that's why we invited you, party pooper..."


I used to be so concerned with pleasing everyone around me that I was always left unhappy. So, now some might call me selfish...but I am happy!! Now don't think that I am completely tactless and go around saying whatever I want. Far from it. I just pick my battles and chose to surround myself with people that make me happy...and screw the rest of em!


So, going through all the chicks in our class there are only a few that we don't know well enough, or don't like to spend time with...so do we invite them all and risk spoiling the evening?? Or, just invite the ones we are almost positive would be fun to have??


I say, screw it, go with what you know!


Now, this was a group of 20 people that I knew really well, everyone would be invited...but I don't, so suck it up and grow a pair. If someone is offended that they don't get invited, sorry, but maybe you should be so annoying, lame, rude, negative (to exclude myself of course), or maybe you should talk to the bride-to-be more!


Great...now that little voice inside is saying, "Mary, why are you being so mean, you know that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings!?!?!" Um, I am sorry voice.....rrrsldkfjlsadkjf....I am going through a tunn...asdflkajsdoir....el, call me back....asdlfk;ouierj....*click*


If I continued on my original goal to keep everyone else happy, I would still be unhappy. I am taking this as a calculated risk, b/c honestly, they call them life lessons for a reason.

7 comments:

Kristina P. said...

Here's a question. Is everyone being invited to the wedding? Technically, no one should be invited to the shower or bachelorette party who aren't being invited to the wedding. Can that be your out?

Heidi Ashworth said...

So, Mary, what I want, nay, need to know is, are you the first Mary born, meaning, older than Mary Tong, or did you just start blogging before her? 'Cuase I know absotively posilutely that there have been one or two (million) Mary's before you. Just checkin' . ..

Jillene said...

You ar MY kind of girl!! Only invite the fun ones and to heck with the others. You're not running a popularity contest you are throwing a Bachlorette party!!

soawesomeimightgetarrested said...

yikes! be careful you have 5 more months w/ these girls:)

btw:
1. I'm a nursing student
2. I have 2 maltese (malti?)
3. I teach sunbeams

cute blog!

Mary said...

Kristina- actually none of us will be at the wedding!! She is getting married in TX...but I don't have to tell all of them that!

Heidi- Mary Tong has been blogging long before me...I am just the first and only awesomest kind of special Mary that I know...therfore, Mary the 1st, I am, I am ;o)

Nikki- I can tolerate all of them thru clinical & theory...but outside of school, I don't want them ruining my fun!

Wendyburd1 said...

If they don't KNOW the bride well, or she doesn't care much FOR them (and they aren't family, LOL) then they will have to suck IT UP!! LOL

the letter Bee said...

I know what you mean. It's kind of like when you have to draw up the short list for the people you want to be in the sealing room when you get married. Do you invite certain people to 'be nice' or do only invite people you actually want to be there on the most important day of your life?

I should have only invited those who I wanted to be there. Ask Michelle for further information- she witnessed a weird exchange between That Person and the temple sealer. It was embarassing and regretful.